Nevertheless, she persisted

I totally and utterly forgot to record either the children's talk or the main service. Apologies. 

Children's Talk

I wonder if you’ve ever noticed how many names end in “el” – I’m thinking of names like Daniel or Joel or Michael or Gabriel. These names usually have meanings, and the meaning is often something about God. Michael, for instance, means “Who is like God?”, and Daniel means “God is my judge”.

The thing is, the word “El” in ancient Hebrew, was used for God. El was actually one of the gods in Canaan, but the Israelites used it to mean just God. So names ending in “El” all have something to do with God. In our reading, we have Jacob fighting the angel, and the angel gives him the name “Israel”, which means “One who struggles with God,” And when Jacob realises that it is God with whom he has been fighting, he calls the place where it took place “Peniel”. This, apparently, means “The Face of God”.

One thing to notice about the story, apart from the names, is that Jacob refuses to let the angel go until he blesses him. Jacob is wounded and in pain from his hip, but he will not give in. He persisted. And we’re going to hear a story that Jesus told, in a minute, about someone who persisted. And we’re told that we, too, should persist in prayer.

Prayer is a funny thing, isn’t it? We know that God knows what we need even before we ask. And often, we aren’t even really asking anything specific, especially when it’s intercessory prayer – prayer for other people. We’ll say “God here’s this person with this need, could you do something?” And sometimes God says, yes, here’s this person with this need, what are you going to do about it?

We can’t, of course, make someone feel better if they’re not well, but we can text them and say we’re thinking of them;
if new children come to your school who don’t yet speak much English, you can befriend them, show them what they need to know –
where the toilets are, for instance, or where to go when it’s lunchtime.
If someone’s being bullied, you can help them report it, or just stay with them so the bullies can’t get at them.
That sort of thing.
And the grown-ups will have their equivalents, too.

It’s important to be open to what God might be asking you to do. You don’t have to be BFF with the new kid in your class – but you do have to be helpful and friendly! And you might get a new friend out of it, who knows? But even if you don’t, what you will get is help from God to be nice! So don’t stop asking!

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Nevertheless, she persisted

 You know, I think Jesus must have a terrific sense of humour. It’s not always easy to find his parables funny, as we are so used to hearing them read in a solemn “I’m-reading-the-Bible” voice that we don’t hear the light and shade in them. But I wouldn’t be in the least surprised if he meant his story of the unjust judge to be funny.

I mean, there is this judge, who seems to like nobody but himself – he doesn’t serve God, and rather despises his fellow-humans. And the widow, who has a cast-iron claim against someone else, who is demanding justice. And not getting it. And the judge keeps on telling her to push off, probably putting it rather more strongly, and yet she keeps on coming back, and keeps on coming back, and finally he gives in and does what she asks.

I am reminded, reading the story again, of the phrase “Nevertheless, she persisted”, which became fashionable a few years ago when they tried to shut up a woman senator in the USA who was saying things thought to be inappropriate – unparliamentary, we would call them in this country. The then Senate majority leader explained, “Senator Warren was giving a lengthy speech. She had appeared to violate the rule. She was warned. She was given an explanation. Nevertheless, she persisted.”

And “Nevertheless, she persisted” became a rallying cry among women of all ages, nationalities and classes. Particularly, I think, in the USA, where women’s freedom is under threat in many ways, although not, of course, as badly as in Afghanistan. And this woman, this widow, is the absolute archetype of someone who persisted, even though she was told to go away and stop being a nuisance. And in the end, she got her way, purely because of her persistence.

We call the story “the unjust judge”, but really, it’s about the widow, isn’t it? Widows, back in the day, had very little status. They may well have been living in absolute poverty, totally dependent on charity. Mind you, it was part of God’s law that widows, orphans and “aliens” or immigrants be looked after by those who had it to spare. In the book of Deuteronomy, indeed, chapter 27 and verse 19, you are cursed if you do not look after the alien, the widow or the orphan. These people have no male protector to look after them, so it’s your job!

You can’t really equate the judge with God, nor the widow with us, although it does feel like that sometime. One source I read when researching this sermon pointed out that it’s really about a flea biting a dog.

It’s amazing how disturbing a small irritant can be. Think of what it’s like when you get a mosquito in your room, and you can hear it whining and whining, but you can’t see it – nor, indeed, feel it until next day when you have one or several itchy bites on your person! As the song says “A flea can bite the bottom of the Pope in Rome!”

Women persist. Women always have persisted. As American writer Valerie Schultz put it: “We women persist. Isn’t that our job? Throughout history, we have persisted in our quest for respect, for justice, for equal rights, for suffrage, for education, for enfranchisement, for recognition, for making our voices heard. In the face of violence, of opposition, of ridicule, of belittlement, even of jail time, nevertheless, we have persisted.”

And because of our persistence, things have happened. Women, in most countries, can now vote – in the UK, universal suffrage only became a thing in 1928, less than a century ago, and in many countries it didn’t happen until more recently. It’s only since 1975 that women can open a bank account or take out a mortgage or even a credit card without a male guarantor – 1975. That’s only 50 years ago! Well within many of our lifetimes.

But in theory, at any rate, women have equal rights with men in this country, although there are still visible pay gaps in certain industries, and for many, other factors such as race come into play. I’m well aware that I’m speaking from a position of White privilege – and a privileged background, at that! I went to an all-girls’ school, and there was no nonsense about girls not being good at STEM subjects, or anything like that.

Sadly, though, in many countries women do not have equal rights, particularly in Afghanistan, and many of my American women friends are afraid that their rights are being eroded.

But back to our parable. It’s not an allegory, you can’t just equate the judge with God and the woman with us, but it is about prayer. God is not an unjust judge – God’s greatest delight, after all, is to give us more and more; remember when Nathan confronted David after he’d had an affair with Bathsheba and got her husband killed? God said to David, through Nathan, that had what he already had not been enough, God would have delighted in giving him twice as much!

Prayer is an odd sort of activity, isn’t it? Especially what’s called intercessory prayer, which is when we ask God for other people, and for ourselves. You would think God would know people’s needs before they ask – and of course, God does! But we are told to pray; it seems in the Bible that it’s absolutely indispensable. Jesus assumed that people prayed; you might remember that he said “When you pray....” rather than “if”. Yet God already knows people’s needs. Like when you see on social media that a friend is poorly or something, and you stop what you’re doing and say a little prayer for them, even something like, “Dear God, please look after them and help them feel better.” God already knew they didn’t feel great....

I don’t know why we are told to pray, but we are. It seems as if prayer creates a condition, an energy if you like, that enables God to work. I do know that when we pray, things change. We change. The more we pray, I think, the closer we come to God, and the more we are enabled to see things from God’s point of view. We aren’t telling God what to do, although it might start off feeling like that; we are barely even asking, other than to say here’s this person with this need, can you do something about it? And, as I said to the children, sometimes God says, yes, here’s this person with this need, what are you going to do about it?

That’s the thing, isn’t it? We are very often called to be the answer to our own prayers. We can’t make someone feel better if they are ill – but we can make them feel loved and appreciated by visiting them, or sending flowers or a card or a tiny present of some kind. We can, and indeed should, welcome new people into our churches and communities, telling them about local activities and community groups or sports clubs they might like; as I said to the children, at school they can help newcomers, especially those who don’t speak much English.

It’s more difficult when it comes to bigger issues, though. We can often help our family and friends, and I do think that it’s always right to name their names before God and to ask God’s blessing on them. I think, too, we need to do the same for our leaders. I know it feels counter-intuitive to pray for someone whose views are not our own, and which, indeed, we may find abhorrent, but we are told to pray for our leaders – and, indeed, for our enemies.

Having said that, of course, we must never sit down under injustice, and must protest it wherever we find it, whether it’s someone at work or college being bullied or treated unfairly by a superior, or whether the government is about to propose something we find unjust or hateful.

Don’t forget, of course, that we don’t have to do any of this in our own strength. The one who calls us will enable us! God delights, as I said above, in giving us what we need and more than that! One of the best things we can pray for is for more of God’s good gifts, which he gives us for his delight, but which do, incidentally, enable us to serve him better.

We seem to have got away from the persistent widow. But she is our example. God is not an unjust judge, but we still need to persist in prayer, and in doing what we can to bring about the answers to our prayer, if it’s something obvious we can do. Because, you see:

God is not an unjust judge.
God is never going to tell us to go away and stop being a nuisance!
God is always going to listen to us when we pray, although sometimes the answer will not be what we expect.
God loves us and delights in being generous to us!
Amen!